CrazyLove

This is my first post of this kind, so I don’t know if I am using the right words or not.

Love, a word described by many, a feeling felt by all. Everyone has a different definition for what love is. I have my own. Love:  Life.  For me, love is a feeling that inspires you to live. It is not necessarily with your lover or friends or your family. Even if you love yourself or anything, you have a goal. You know what you are living for. Lucky are the ones who know what they want!

So, yeah I experienced it, I encountered many who were on the cloud nine because they were in LOVE. I also met many who just wanted their misery to end anyhow, because they just had a heart-break.  There were many who loved their parents more than anything, and the others who loved themselves. I am not judging anyone, because it’s their life, their decision.

I am actually happy to say that because of this feeling, people are showing some of the human traits! They are familiar with the words sacrifice, compromise, passion and kindness. It feels so good to see that they know what makes them happy and who makes them happy.

I think when there is a name in your mind with whom you want to share anything and everything, with whom you want to celebrate your happiness is when you are in love. When you can do anything for it and when you can face every problem with a smile, you are in love. In love, you find your life meaningful. The butterfly feeling is not superficial :P You are ready to do anything to just see the smile on their face. At times, you put them above you too. Because this is love, it is stupid, it is crazy but it is also what makes you happy.

But love is also relative. In the end you will know what you love the most. This is when things get complicated. There are times when you disagree to compromise, or when you just can’t get hold of what is right and what is wrong.  You are made to choose between your dreams, your life and your love. This is the time when you just can’t decide what you want more. Then there are days when you just don’t feel like it’s going in the right direction and you should have never taken the first step. The time when you regret everything you did, the time when you just can’t stop thinking about all the bad decisions you ever made and how different your life would have been if it’s not for them. When you try to show yourself that you are strong enough to go through this but every second every part of you just want to give up. When you want to cry so hard, to scream out so load that you no longer can hear the sound of your own thoughts. This is the time when you can’t get any weaker. This is the time when you will start getting better. So when it feels like it’s the worst day of your life, smile because tomorrow is going to be a good day for you.

I still don’t get it why some of the heart-broken people go for self-destruction. It isn’t what love is. Love is life and you are alive. Taking such drastic steps makes you incapable of loving. If the love is true, just move on with your life. My favourite quote is not a lie!

“Whatever happens happens for good”.

So if you find yourself in such a position ever, don’t worry, because it’s just for something better. You have a lot more to learn. You have a lot more to achieve. When the ‘Right One’ is there, you won’t get apart, I can promise you that. No one can change the course of your life, so you just have to complete your role and the rest will be taken care of. I am not expecting you to not cry or fall apart. All I am asking for is you to be strong. Life is never unfair.

Love makes you laugh, makes you cry, holds you together, and makes you fall apart. But it’s just the ups and downs that make it so worth living for. You can’t always get what you want, but what you get is always what you need. Think of all the good memories love has given you and cherish them. All you need to do is know what you want.

Love is a feeling that completes me, I love my life, I love everything about it, and I love everyone in it. I chose to smile instead of moping over anything. For me, love is the happy feeling. For me, it is worth living for. J

Fake Life!

We have come so far in life today that we forgot to actually live our life. Yes ! Today life seems so artificial, so calculated to me. 

When we were young, life seems so out of control, we were not allowed to even choose our food or clothes. That time all we can think of was growing up so that we can decide everything and live as per our will. But now when I am the in charge of my life, I want to be a kid again. Not because I am fed up the work or responsibilities but just because deciding everything is so exhausting. 

Calculating every possible consequence of our action has become a habit for us and deep down we know we have stopped living freely because of this but it is what it is. 

I miss the time when I used to say what I really wanted to say instead of thinking about the long-term consequences. The time when people were actually good, when they used to talk when they actually wanted to, not because they have some motive. Innocence is gone. The time when smiling was just a gesture to show that you care. The time when you could differentiate between good and bad. Now, in this grey world, you just don't know what is actually right. There are two-faced people, there are liars. And what is the worst part of all this is we are taught to be one of them because they say to survive in  jungle you have to be an animal yourself!

We are free! We are free to be slaves of this society. Because if we don't act like how we are supposed to, we won't survive for a minute. And when I say I have tried that believe it. With these passing years we aren't taught to live our life, we are taught to fix in this society of Robots! We lack emotions, we lack truth, we lack innocence and we lack life. 

Life is good, we just stopped living life. We got into this vicious circle of unreal materialism.  We became coward. We stopped saying or doing anything for us.

Relations, emotions, compassion seem just some superficial words. Happiness is not an emotion today, it is not any feeling. Today happiness for most is money, fame, power or whatever they dream of. But do they find happiness ever! I doubt it.

Helping people is another 'give and take' process today, just like love. 

Before joining I had so many talks with my father on learning diplomacy, professional behaviour that in the process I lost the meaning of my life. Thank God that my will was stubborn enough to go back to what it was before. Yes I want to learn things but not because someone else told me so, I want to learn by my mistakes. I want to experience a little bad too, to evolve, to grow, to fall and to rise up again. 

Yes, I learnt how to live that artificial life that everyone is living and has to live in this world, but now I know how to balance between both. 

I am glad to find that there is still hope left for us, because we at least care enough to make our parents happy. At least some of us do! This might be a start to a better world, to be happier world! 

Because we are not robots who have to fake every movement, we are real people. We feel, We love, We get Hurt, We make mistakes and We get better every time!

Happily_Ever_After for Committed people ;)

Most people must have gone through a bad relationship and most of them must be really into it. Now the point is ‘What went Wrong’. This list will point out some of the common mistakes people usually do and avoiding them can really help you to make your relationship work. Hope it helps.

10. Not a Boss:

This thing is to be kept in every relationship not just for couples. It is okay to care for the person but caring doesn’t mean to boss around. Being caring doesn’t mean to force other people to do what you want them to do and live their lives as per your wish. It is their life and you can’t order them to live it in your way. So this nature is a relation-spoiler for sure. By being too bossy and trying to make things according to your will all the time will show that it is just you and not US present in the relation. You are supposed to be the better half of the person so treat them equally and realize their importance. Else you will end up single with a broken heart.

9. Don’t be the accountant:

It is good to take care and maintain an account of the money spent but once you are in a relationship, you just can’t do it openly in front of her if you are a guy! It has been the custom that men are supposed to spend money (excluding some special occasions!) and it is okay to maintain a record of how much you have spent and do some savings also. But it is a strict ‘NO NO’ to keep on telling your girl about how much money you have spent on her this week or month. It will make her feel like she is no more a financial burden on you and it would be better for you if she leaves you. And I’m sure you don't want this. You may be left wondering why she left you but let me tell you, girls are over-thinkers and you can’t imagine how far they can think.

8. Don't be Materialistic:

This tip is especially for girls. If you want a serious commitment you need to change your thinking that boys are meant to spend money on you and it is your right to make them do so. They are also bounded by other responsibilities and you can't just take them as your cashiers! You are just proving yourself materialistic who is interested in their money not in them! If it is all about money then it is not a relationship but a business. And you know businesses don't last forever. So if you really want your relationship to work, you must not make him feel like a bank to you. You should try to be on an equal status by paying some bills or by giving him some presents. If you are married then I would say you are a family now. Now you both are together and you need to get above the thinking of individuality.

7. Dragging the Past:

Everyone has a past but what you need to do is love in your present if you want a future with your partner. If they are with you now and are being loyal to you then you need not to worry and you should forget about their past because they are determined now to be with you. So support them and help them in keeping the love between you two. Stop making them regret it and don't ever compare the present with their past because what matters the most is your love and now by reminding them of their past you are creating troubles only. Now if we talk about the problems you two faced in the past, you faced it and you have moved on, there is no point in blaming the other for the mishap that happened in the past. You need to let go of the things and if you really want this relationship to work, you need to forget and forgive.

6. Trying to Change:

Changes are good, but when we talk about relationships, it is playing the negative role. Forcing your partner all the time to change is like forcing them to be someone else. In the starting phase of relationships you may have said the same sentence “I like the way you are!” but were you honest when you said that? I don’t think so. You should try to accept them the way they are. You loved them that way only so why try to change them. Because they will mould for you, but they too have a limit and after it they will feel like they are bounded. If we talk about you now, then if you are also changing according to your partner beyond your limit, then I would suggest you to stop. Because you can compromise up to a level and after that you would be craving to be free. So try to talk and solve things out.

5. Lack of Communication:

This is the most common reason of the problems in a relationship. When you stop talking to each other and when you are no longer communicating, how are you supposed to be in a relationship? You may be busy with your work and you may be lacking topics to talk about after a long relationship, but if there is no communication between you two, you are creating distances only and it is not at all good for both if you. This is a strict requirement in a relationship. If you have nothing to talk about, try to spend some time together and your relationship will be back on the right track.

4. Don't Abandon:

Make your partner feel like they are your second priority and you are single once again. When people are committed to a relationship, all they expect from the other one is their attention and love. But if you prove yourself to be the opposite, your relation is going to have a dead end. When you are out with your friends and your partner, it is good to pay attention to your friends as it is supposed to be a social meeting, but among your friends ignoring your partner or considering them as just another friend would be very wrong. No one can tolerate it. As they want to be treated specially. Not necessarily all the time but they deserve some of your intimate moments also. Even when you are out with your friends or family but without your partner, don't think now you are free to avoid them. You should inform them about it as they may be actually worried about you. So guys abandoning your partner in any case can be a relationship killer.

3. Don't Lie:

This is a tip difficult to implement. But is the most important key factor for the success of a relationship. There is very popular English saying “A Building can’t be strong if its foundations are weak.” This applies here also. A relationship can’t last long if it was started on a base of lies. You need to be completely honest with your partner. There is no place for lies here. You should be honest in all the situations. Even when you are wrong, you should tell them the truth as they deserve it. So avoid lies as today or tomorrow they are going to badly affect your relation only; because lies have very small life. So better be safe and be truthful.

2. Never Compare:

This is the most common mistake done by the people in relationship. At first they act like they love you so much and they don't even see anyone else except you but with time all the facts are uncovered and you get to know the whole thing. This thing turns out real bad when they start comparing you with other people or they start comparing your relationships with other. So this is a really big problem and it has ended many relationships also. So keep this thing in mind never compare your partner or your relationship with others because you may not be fully familiar with them and you are just seeing the good parts. But Roses always come with thorns. And it is not just about sharing your thoughts with your partner, but you shouldn't have this comparison round even in your mind as it will ruin your relation from your side also. So avoid Comparisons.

1.Don't Over-think:

This thing should be avoided in general traits of life also. Thinking about something again and again will do no good. It will just make things go wrong. If you are going through a rough patch thinking about it over and over again will increase the grudges instead of solving the problem. What you need to do is let go. Secondly, if you have some problem with your partner, try to fix things but if there is no improvement, don't keep on thinking about that small issue and make things wrong for both of you. As you are not accepting this fact and your partner will get irritated and you are likely to break-up. In the end, it is good if you are dreaming of having any future with your partner, but make sure you are not day dreaming because if you over-think about it, you are going to hurt yourself in the end.

Insecurity will destroy you

If you want to be successful in today’s world, you better be confident enough to cope up with this fast improving society. You may say you are good enough but deep down you may be the victim of insecurity. The first step in this direction is to accept this fact and after that we are here to help you gain that confidence back whether it is about you as an individual or it is about your relationship. Some of the tips that might help are:

10. Don’t Ignore:

Ignoring problems doesn’t solve them. If you feel the traces of insecurities in you, just face it. If you feel the problem with your partner instead of waiting for the time when he/she would adjust to that or there comes a big storm try to solve it. Mocking out would definitely worsen it. If they have some insecurity try to find out the reason behind that and let them know that you care. And if you are the victim then you should better start thinking why you have the insecurity and then take the complimentary actions and set the wrong things right.

9. Talk:

Talking can be the problem of every solution if done in the right way. Talk more about your problems to the one who cares and who would care enough to listen. Who knows you get the solution to your problem. If it’s about your partner even then talk to them that you know what is going on in their mind and you have noticed the changes. Make them feel comfortable enough to show that side of themselves. You would get to know about them more and they will feel they have you no matter what. Try to help them with whatever that is bothering them. May be you can prove to be a life saver.

8. Don’t give up or give in:

It’s fine if you are irritated because of the insecurities, it is human. But what you need to do is to try to find out the solution for your problem and never ever give up. Giving up would do no good. And if it is your partner who is feeling insecure than it is must that you try to make them feel better but in no circumstances you should give in. You are no dummy and you can’t keep changing yourself because of their insecurities. Don’t let the insecurities win over. Instead stay firm and remain who you are. Tell them that you are not okay with it and make your point clear. It would prevent any further misunderstandings and you can’t just keep on modifying .

7. Dig it out:

‘You have a problem go to its root.’, ‘In the core of every problem lies their solutions’; these all are not mere statements. To find the solution to any problem you need to get to the bottom of it. So think about it. What could be the reason of your insecurity? And when you know the problem you got the solution. If it is about your partner then I would say talk to them more about it. Let them spell it. Find out what happened that you have negative thoughts about yourself that caused this insecurity. May be that past experience is no more important in your life and you may be able to get over it.

6. Remain Busy:

This may not be the particular solution to this problem but you can’t ignore the fact that the more you stay free, the more negative thoughts you have. And negative thoughts would cause insecurity. So why not remove the factor completely. Keep yourself busy enough to avoid any negative thoughts. Indulge yourself in good things whatever you like. If you find out the insecurity in your partner then I would suggest the same to you also. Keep her busy. Take her out, make her feel special and needed and don’t give her time to think of anything else. Girls the same applies to you.

5. They are not Experts:

You have a best friend that is good. But you know what..! Even that person is no perfect human. So instead of taking advices from them think and help yourself. It doesn’t mean stop sharing things or stop listening to others. It simply means if your friend is saying something that you are not okay with, you better listen to yourself. If your friend has a failed relationship because of some reason doesn’t mean you would face the same. You two have different partners, different personalities and different conditions. So you better start using your own brain before its too late.

 

4. Trust:

This is the prime important factor in any relationship. Trust your better half if you want to be trusted too. Give love if you want love. You can’t just keep on looking into their personal stuff or mails or their cell phone. They have a personal life of their own and don’t ever try to sneak into their personal space. You may be out from their life also by doing so. Respect their feelings of privacy. Don’t be the detectives and find out the details about them until it’s too important.  You would be creating misunderstandings only. Instead trust them and strengthen your relationship.

3. Some principles but no scratching out the scrap:

Set some ground rules and don’t break them usually. Decide them by mutual discussion and happiness of both. You and your partner both had a life before this relationship also. So why let that life die. May be it was the life your partner loved. Set some principles that could be a day with friends in a week or may be a movie in a week together. But when they are out with their friends don’t envy that or doubt that. They are loyal don’t worry. You should not try to dig out the things to a level that makes them uncomfortable. Like if they said they went out to a bar, don’t try to force them to tell you every detail of it. And if there is a small issue between you too, try to solve it instead of creating a scene over it.

2. Self-Confidence:

Nothing attracts a man or woman more than self-confidence. So stay long and confident. If you will keep on thinking about the things that you lack you would be the victim of insecurity for sure. If you are lacking something, try to figure out what and work on that. Work to improve yourself and your confidence as a result. If you think your dressing or your looks or the way you present yourself in front of others is not good enough, work to make it better. If you will keep on thinking you are not good enough for your partner, you would never be. If you will keep on thinking your relationship won’t work, it would never do. So think positive and improve.

1. Stop Comparison:

This is the biggest problem that causes insecurity. You must keep one thing in mind ‘Nobody is perfect’ and ‘You have your own qualities’. If you will keep on comparing yourself with other people who say look better than you or who have a better life than you (as per your thinking) then stop doing it. You don’t know anything about their life and you can see their qualities only. Try to look at yourself and see what you are good at. Everyone is born with some qualities. So stop feeling inferior. You are best and no one can replace you. You should in fact think about the things you can learn from that person and improve yourself.      

Birthday Bash

Any Birthday coming up?? Let me help you here :)

You must have wished some person on their birthday and you will be doing that every year. But have you ever given it a thought about how to make your wishes really different and interesting so that they never forget it? Here is a list of 10 ways that could help you with this:

10. The Sneak Attack:

It is good to know that someone was just waiting for the clock to strike 12 in the mid night just to wish on your birthday. So it could be the best thing to do for them. If you feel like disturbing the birthday boy or girl just drop a message. At least you deserve them to know that you were up till 12 for them! And then you can give the person a call the next day. If it is your buddy then you can be shameless ;)

9. It is the day:

Okay they know it is their birthday. But won’t they love it if you keep reminding them of that? You can keep on texting or calling them to wish them. They will surely get pissed off however. You can try setting their ringtone as “Happy Birthday” or you can make them wear “Its my Birthday” Tee-shirt. Imagine how it would be when they will be walking down a street and some stranger wishes them because they were too desperate for wishes! It would be fun; trust me!

8. Gifts every hour:

This is a cute idea and could help you with that special someone of yours also. If you are going to spend the day with them, you could do it yourself. Give them presents for every hour they have spent with you. You can start with a cake at 12. Now if you are not there with them, try to take help from someone present there with her. Arrange things such that they get a gift whenever the minute hand is at 12! The gifts need not to be very expensive. They could be just Roses or whatever you can afford.

7. Weird Birthday:

If you want their birthday to be memorable, you can also make it a little weird for them. You can take help from your friends unknown to them. Tell them to call the birthday person and threaten them for life. Like “Enjoy your Last Birthday” etc. Let it happen for a few times. When they will be sharing this thing with you fully scared, you can tell them the truth. It could be fun with friends but I suggest you to not try it with your parents. You can end up being grounded.

6. Birthday Bash:

This is the common idea for wishing someone on birthdays but is still very popular. People love parties and enjoying their day with others and move on the dance floor, eat and have loads of fun. You can make them crave for wishes by not wishing them the entire day but in the evening when all their hopes have diminished and they are convinced that everyone forgot their birthday, they will love to see that surprise birthday party that you planned. You may see a little anger but lot of love in them. They would forgive you for not wishing the whole day the moment you hug them and wish them.

5. Creepy Celebration:

If you are looking forward to have a creepy party for the birthday, not a romantic one or just food and dance, you can do it differently. You can choose an old wrecked place or a bushed place with tents as the venue, decorate the place with strange items like fruits, torn out clothes and whatever garbage you can find out. Keep it in mind it should not be stinky as it will ruin the mood. You can have an announcement for the person in the store or on the roads, embarrass them and make it an unforgettable birthday.

4. Cyber Wishes:

You can wish them in the cyber style also. When everything today is computerized, you can also take a little help from technology. You can wish them on facebook by writing a nice post on their wall or composing a cute message that makes them feel how important they are in your life and they matter a lot. Birthdays can be a good occasion to show people their importance.

3. Show it:

This option gives you a wide view of what you can do on the birthday. Prepare a presentation for the birthday boy/girl. Include cute pictures and some of the horrible pictures that they hate to see. Edit nice messages with them and display it may be in private or in front of all. I can tell you they will be so glad to see this surprise. Who doesn’t want to be loved and when you show it on their birthday, it can be the perfect gift for them and that presentation or movie of just 10 minutes can be their best few minutes. Include pictures according to your needs and relation and how you want it to. You can play the video at 12 also or in a restaurant where you are supposed to have dinner.

2. Frame it:

This is an old fashioned and cute way to show your love and care to a person. And what could be a better day to show it. Frame your feelings about that person say you like them or it is good to have them in life and whatever it is. Moreover you can also gift them their own portrait. Let them know that you know them very well. You can create a collage of images of them or a collection of quotes dedicated to them. They will be really touched by your efforts and would love and admire the surprise. You can wish them wearing a tee-shirt that says “You are the Best. Happy Birthday! ” Be a little creative and surprise them.

1.Know their needs:

If you know the person from long, then this idea would fit you. If you find yourself on the stage where you know about the likes and dislikes of the person and about the needs and hobbies then you have checked on a right tip. You can buy the things that the person needs according to their choices and gift them with the right timing and presentation. Presentation matters a lot. Just giving it to them or giving them with a little preparation differs. You can arrange hide and seek for them to get to their gifts and you can also make them beg for it. Do it in your style and make it special. Another possible thing that you could do is make a list of things that they need to do this year or some resolution that they always wanted to complete, get it framed and gift it. It will prove how thoughtful you are and you will get that sweet satisfying smile on their face.

Pick anything you want to for their birthday, but with a little style and creativity, you will make their birthday a special day not just for them but for yourself only as your work will be admired by one and all. 

Because of all those 365 days, on this one day everyone deserves all the happiness in the world :)

Confidence is the Key

 Today, what we notice is people having enough talents and skills but lack of confidence to shine among all. And an unrepresented knowledge is no better than knowing nothing. If you too are the one who faces the problem of having lack of self-confidence than this article is for you and it will help you for sure trust me.

10. Positivity:

This is the key for not just improving the self-confidence but is useful in almost all the spheres of life. When you are surrounded by people with negative thinking, you can’t just rise up. Whenever you’ll try their negative thoughts won’t let you do anything different or important. So it is must to be connected with the positive people as they will help you groom, they will help you gain that self-confidence, and they will help you to have those guts to do something or initialize something big. So the most important and a basic thing for you if you want to improve self-confidence is gain that positivity, stay away from those negative people who just drag you down and be with those who inspire you and support you to achieve your dreams.

9. Dress Smartly:

This may seem irrelevant here but my friend it is not. The way you feel about yourself is clearly visible by the way you behave and act. So if you think well about yourself, you will give an impression of a confident person. Now, the point of dressing nicely is that if you look smart, well groomed, neat and well dressed, you will feel confident within yourself and now this is what was lacking before it. So fell good inside and it will be shown outside automatically. Now dressing smartly means dress nice and clean clothes, bathe daily, look neat and presentable and carry yourself in a good manner. It will make a unique identity of yours. But it doesn’t mean you just keep on shopping. Shop less but spend more. That is focus on quality goods rather than on quantity as they are expected to last long and look good. However best is to wear what makes you comfortable. As ‘You’ are the priority here.

8.  Walk Straight and Smart:

Another point that may seem useless for a moment but when you give it a thought you will agree. Walking slowly and bent downwards are not praised. If you are among those who walk slowly swinging arms and without noticing the surroundings in a sub-conscious state; than I would tell you to stop doing that right now, because they are nothing but a sign of low confidence. Walk straight and smartly, be energetic and quick. Improve your posture and work on your walking style. You may try walking with a book on your head and trying not to drop it. It will help you in walking straight while looking in the forward direction. It will create a sense of self-confidence itself.

7. You are Good:

 The main reason of having low self-confidence is that inferiority feeling that you get sometimes when you feel someone is better than you. But let me tell you one very important thing that could be a lifetime tip, “You are no less”. Yes, you heard it right! Everyone has got that extraordinary quality in them. You just need to find that. So what that guy has got looks, you got talent. It applies to all of you out there. Everyone is different. And you have also got something in you. So why not just write them down. Take out a paper and make a list of those achievements of yours that you love about you. It need not be very big, it could be just say learning to cook, or getting the license etc. And whenever you feel depressed, just read it and see how much you have improved and achieved. Add on to your list with everything you gain and every hurdle you pass and it will help you feel good about you. And also help you to get that confidence back. Because “You are Special”.

6. Work on it:

It is for those who find it difficult to talk in public and thus they feel lagging behind all others. One thing you must always keep in mind and that is “Nobody is Perfect”. So, if you feel like you are not able to do something, just admit it, don’t quit and work on it. So, start practicing to talk and express your views and in no time you will be that nobody. At an initial level you can start talking to those around whom you feel comfortable than slowly try to get out of your comfort zone. Talk in small groups first than don’t leave any opportunity to talk in public. You will be a public speaker in no time. Similarly, in whatever field you find yourself incapable and that degrades your confidence, just work on it and try to improve. Don’t ever think of quitting as this is what losers do!

5. Be Philosophical:

It may seem too much, but what we have to lose here. So why not give it a try. What you need to do is consider everything in a philosophical manner. It could be like on losing something thinking like it was just one door that closed, I have many more options to try now. And so on. Similarly, whenever something bad happens to you, instead of getting frustrated by your failure, just think it from the point of some philosophical mind. You may find it boring but it works. When you will think positive about anything bad also, it will improve your point of view, make you optimistic and a positive person. Keep a diary to maintain the record of all of it. Knowing that you faced something successfully can boost your self-confidence to a great level.

4. Be Innovative:

When you have those guts to initialize something new that may seem ridiculous to others but you succeeded in proving yourself, then you start attracting people around you. This will increase your confidence only. Start thinking out of the box, make a unique identity of yourself, and within a blink of eyes you will be the centre of attraction of your workplace or your surroundings. Now when everyone wants to talk to you, everyone is seeking your advice, everyone wants to hang out with you, why won’t you have that self-confidence. One thing to keep in mind is “Be Polite”. Don’t take it as if you are the only one. As Rudeness is never Admired.

3. Be Good:

You are good by heart; there is no harm in showing others also what’s behind that rock wall. That is you may have a golden heart but if you don’t speak nicely, don’t treat others in a way they deserve to be, your goodness is of no use. It is nothing if you don’t show it. So be polite to others around you whether it is your boss or your co-workers. People see what you shoe them. And once you are the ‘Good Guy’ you will be the most wanted buddy for all. When all are your friends and all trying to follow you, there is no scope of low self- confidence. You may also try helping out others who need it. When you will be satisfied and happy, you won’t even remember if you lack something or not because all we need is happiness.

2. Set your principles:

Another reason for low self-confidence could be your fear of being wrong or when you are already wrong. So why even get stuck in such a condition when you do something wrong and you are left fearing about it and that indirectly affects your self-confidence also. Now what to do to avoid such situations? Basic thing is to set your on core principles and that you are not allowed to break in any condition ever. They are the rules that you have to follow forever. It could be like never lie or steal or never skip work. When you are bound to your principles, nothing in the world can force you to do wrong that you later on regret because regret is the feeling that kills you from inside. So why even allow such conditions to occur. Set your principles and bound to them and never ever break your own rules in any condition.

1.Knowledge:

You get the confidence to speak about something when you have enough knowledge about that topic. Without having that necessary knowledge, your words are of no weight. And in most of the cases, you don’t even find yourself comfortable enough to speak. Best way to avoid such situation is to gain enough knowledge that you never have to face such condition. Books can help you with it. When you have the required knowledge you get the confidence by yourself, when you have got the facts, you will speak up undoubtedly. Read more, and get wiser. And the wiser you are, the more confident you are. The more knowledge you have, the more powerful you are. Everyone has to go through hardships and so do you. What you need to do is prepare yourself to face it.  

Top Women Fantasies

Here is another post written by me. Its fun, but don't forget, Its not all me :P Its an output of some research mixed with my feelings, in my words. Don't forget to add on your own fantasy ;)

Sometimes you may be wondering what she thinks of when she is around you or what is it that she is day-dreaming of.  All you got to do is understand how she thinks. You may use this knowledge for good purposes like making her happy. It will give a positive turn to your relationship. However, it is quite difficult to put together all what a woman fantasizes of. But here are some of the facts that could help to solve the mystery.

9.  Supernatural Powers:

Every girl has once fantasized about having some supernatural power and do the stuff that they can’t do normally. One of them is to fly. Her mind wants to see the beauty of nature. She wants to fly and know what it feels like to be in the open air, no boundaries. Another one she imagined of is to get invisible. She wants to see what people do when you are not noticed. Such crazy thoughts may actually. Women often fantasize about reading others mind and know what is going on in their thoughts. This mere thought makes her feel powerful and confident.

8. She’s the man:

One of a very common thing that women fantasize about is ‘Role Reversal’. Women often wonder what it would be like to be a man. They have, at some moment, secretly wished to be a man. She wants to see the world from a man’s eyes. She wants to do whatever a man can. Whenever she finds herself unable of doing something because she is a woman, she fantasizes herself as a man. It could be his physical strength or his carefree nature or anything including the intercourse, she has fantasized about being a man at least once.

7. Dream Home:

This is something every woman has desired and fantasized of. It is said that ‘Home is where Heart is!’ But in this case, there is a dream home in every woman’s heart. Some of them fantasize about a luxurious royal bungalow while on the other side some chocolate lovers may have fantasized about a chocolate house also. Some women may fantasize about a country side house that can be small or large, while some may fantasize themselves sun-bathing in their beach house. Whatever their choices are, they imagine a happy and settled life in their dream home.

6. Slave Partner:

Now this one is hard to believe but the fact is no matter how much your girl may love you, they have always dreamt of a slave partner. It is a common desire among the dominant women. They often fantasize their partners serving them. Who doesn’t want to be the queen and order people? And in this they don’t leave their partners out of it. Your lady may be fantasizing about you doing everything she wants, even if it is a bad idea, to have you knelt down on her feet and tell you that she is the mistress and you have to follow her orders. She may have the thoughts, while sitting with you, ordering you to clean the floor, then to sweep her off her feet and afterwards make love to her!

5. Dream Date:

This one may seem to be applicant for young girls only, but trust me it applies for every woman out there. Women fantasize of a dream date that could be with her partner only but when the place and the surprises are what she has always desired of, or it may be with some hot guy she always wanted to have sex with or some crush of her. It could be her favorite actor also. In this fantasy, everything is just perfect for her; the partner, the spot, the time, the gifts and the surprises. Every woman has a fantasy of a perfect date.

4. Shop like a billionaire:

This is something very easy to believe. A woman without shopping is incomplete. Woman can buy anywhere and anytime and can get 10 more things even if she needs none. This is a common fantasy of like 90% women. They fantasize themselves shopping and buying whatever they want to without having to think of their budget and what they actually need. They may find themselves purchasing things like clothes, shoes, jewels, cars and what not. Women fantasize of a lucky day when they can shop like crazy and they need not to pay the bills. You can witness this if you leave them in the mall and say ‘Baby, I am paying today’

3. Center of Attention:

Women love to be the center of attraction. To be loved, liked and admired by all is a common fantasy or you may say ‘desire’ of every woman. They often consider it an insult when the people around her talks about or admire other woman. They often fantasize about being the prettiest, the most beautiful, most admired, the most special one and possibly everything. Some of them even fantasize of eating everything they desire but never get fat, even without workouts .They often have an image in their mind where everyone is admiring them; every guy wants to be with them, in short where they are superior to all. They fantasize of a day when they are the ‘Queen’.

2. Go round the earth:

Women often fantasize of flying around the world and visit every destination that is in her wish-list. You should not be surprised when you find you lady trying to Google every possible country for hours. It’s her fantasy in which she visits the places in her mind only. She finds herself in one of those 187 countries and colored in that place’s culture. She wants to see all the wonderful places that exists, the people there, the food, the history. She thinks ‘travel the world now or she won’t ever be able to’. It could be an adventurous or a romantic trip for her.

1. The Fairy Tale:

This is the fantasy of every single woman existing on earth. Every woman wants her life more or less like a fairy tale; with a happy ending always. It could be from the perspective of the relationships where they fantasize of a perfect relationship; where both of them are happy and her partner is no less than perfect. Or it could be anything she ever wanted. In hard times, she fantasizes of a magic wand which will make everything better. When young, she fantasizes of her prince charming, coming to her on the white horse and then happily ever after. No kidding, but they still fantasize about the magic moments. She wants her life to be worth living. A perfect ‘Fairy-Tale like’ life is a ‘dream come true’ for every woman, a fantasy.