Poor Girl

Girls and Guys . Yes they are equal, as per the rules and facts at least! But are they really considered equal? Most of the girls will reply to this the same, ‘NO’ and I am one of them.

From the childhood days, we girls are made to learn things that will make us a family person, a happy to be with, to have as a part of family type of person. We are taught to cook and do other household works because as they say a girl is of no use if she can’t cook for her Godly husband! She has to feed them. And of course to make them the best of all other eligible bachelorette of her age, they must, a strict must, know how to do other works, as you can’t rely on anyone else for your daily works, dah !

But the best part is this is the modern era, now everyone wants a girl who is well educated, not to mention working because who knows when this talent of the girls might come in handy. So the sarcasm here is we are expected to learn every household activity, and we have to compete with the male members to get good score, a good college and finally a good job. Ohh I almost forgot to mention, boys and girls are equal. So if a guy can go out to get the grocery or if he can drive us to our workplace, we must be capable of doing the same. We have to have the talent the male society got, you know why, because girls and guys are equal!

But then from the age of 5 years, they start training us, more like the taming. Because we are the girls, we have to laugh like a lady, walk and talk like one, and yeah we never ever are allowed to raise our voices even if something is not right. We don’t have the privilege to question anyone, and by anyone I literally mean anyone, because we can’t afford to seem rude, no! Apart from training and taming you know what else is not right, it’s when you grow up with the continuous dialogue by your mum that you are going to get married someday, and this is not your home! Why !!

When you turn 15, congratulations, life is going to suck for you girl, and as usual it’s because you are a girl. You won’t be allowed to do so many things. Going out would be more of a hell for you because of those staring eyes and cheap people and you are just 15 so you don’t even know how to handle it. I seriously pity you girl. Then this growing age, and confused mind, you have so much more in your plate, the hormone issues, the temper issues, the teenage problems and what not. But don’t worry, you won’t be treated any differently even now. We still have to be in our limits. Guys are the ones who are meant to break the rules, not girls! Guys make a mistake, it’s because they are learning, they are growing, and when girls make a mistake, how dare she!  I don’t know why people get so hypocrite on this topic. Every things good with the guys and when it comes to girls they would like to keep them imprisoned until they just transfer them from one cell to other, ie. Her parents’ home to her in-laws’ home! PS: It still won’t be your home, because it’s your husband’s place. So don’t ever dare to commit any mistake!

Moving on.. The adult life, when parents pressurize us to get married. You want to work, to achieve what you always wanted, but ohh poor girl how can you forget this job was not because they wanted you to achieve your dreams, it was more of an investment! The more qualified you are, the better husband you get, that’s the deal. But don’t be too good, because then either your parents would find difficulty in searching for the perfect groom or you will end up doing nothing, because how can you be better than your husband!

Then comes the part when you finally want to have a little fun in your life, because in your school days you had to wait for the college, den in college wait for the job, and even when you are working, you are not supposed to have a little fun, go out with friends, because the world out there is not safe, so girl, wait, wait for your hubby to show you places. So finally after getting married you hope that now is the time, but wait, you are a girl, you are supposed to stay back, and remain low, as you can’t just get out just after your marriage! What would ‘Society’ think of you! After 1 year of marriage, you even started shopping for your vacations. PS: shopping is the only thing girl can actually enjoy pre and post marriage! But ohh no, how can you take it so lightly, you have one more major role: Family Planning! Food and Kids are your major responsibility, never ever forget that! So again you are not allowed to go out. Yes not allowed, you are just 30 now, you don’t know what is good and what is bad for you. You are such a child! And after all the sacrifices and compromised you won’t be admired, you know why, because it was your job, you are a girl and that’s what is expected of you!

And this cycle never ever stops. I am sure I would be on the other side after 20-30 years, but right now I am here, right now I am frustrated, fed up of all this. I am a girl. I have survived in toughest of all conditions. I am the one who is there for you when you needed to, so in return, yes I do expect a little respect, empathy and love! I am a girl because I have the gu

ts to be one! So being girl is awesome for me, because I know guys won’t be able to take that much!