Poor Guy

In my previous post I talked about how unfair the world is to girls. Now let's see the other side of the story ;)

              Are guys and girls really equal? This is the time when I will say, no they are not equal. I mean whenever something happens, it is the guy who is the person responsible to fix it, one who has to and who must fix everything. No excuses! I don’t recall the time when a girl has to take the responsibility of the house maintenance or taking up the job of the plumber!

Let’s see this from a guy’s perspective now. From the childhood days a guy has to learn how to be the ‘Responsible’ son of his parents. With all that responsibility comes the pressure of being a good son. Poor guys! They don’t have the privilege to act careless as it would show that they are not being serious and it would lead to them being useless!

             A guy has to learn how to fix things from his childhood days because ultimately he has to take over the job his dad has been doing for years. He is a guy, he is a fixer! Talking about the facts, male to female ratio in India is 908:1000. So when I say this, that 92 guys won’t be getting his better half, then do believe it. So, who would want that for their son! So the race starts; the race to make their son the perfect bachelor; the race to make him capable enough to deserve a good wife! You don’t want to be one of those 92 guys, do you? In this very competitive world, one more competition for the poor guy!

             For a girl, the only thing that she needs to learn of all is cooking but a guy has to earn! Girls can be so carefree when it comes to careers and life goals, because well, they can rely on their ‘husband’ for that. He has to be independent; he has to be capable of supporting his future family. He has to work towards it, to build his future, to achieve his goals as he has no other option. He is the one who is meant to take care of it, and he just can’t back out from this duty. But this poor guy here has to know a little bit of household works also, you need to know everything for that ‘in case’ situation.

              A guy has to take care of his family throughout his life. He has to look after his parents, his siblings, and finally his future family. Sorry guys for shattering your dreams if you think being a guy is good, because it actually bad. You won’t be getting fun or freedom, but loads and loads of responsibilities. Health and education, necessities and luxury, it’s all in your plate. You will have her by your side always but ultimately it would be you who has to do something about it. So get ready to have a very tough life.

                Now if a guy is lucky enough to get a girl, get ready because life will be unfair for you. She will dominate; she will treat you like anything. You are always the one who will be blamed for everything, because girls are too sensitive to take all that. Even if a girl is wrong, you have to say sorry!

                Then you have this time constraint to get a decent job, to get settled. Worst part is you treat your girl, your wife, your daughter like the princess or queen, but you are not appreciated for that. One mistake and all goes in vain.

Then the reservation for females: in buses, in jobs, in colleges and everywhere else! Girls get better of all. Everyone treats them so nicely and is always ready to help, but when it comes to guys, they won’t help even if it’s their job to help! I feel sorry for you, for every fight you have to be involved in, for every sacrifice you have to make, for every stupid thing you do to make her smile, for everything you do, for her. You have to take care of your family and also have to do anything in your control to see them happy. You are guy, tough from outside but in reality you do care a lot. You would want them to be happy.

                  A guy is the ‘Head of the House’; and trust me, that’s the toughest job. You don’t have any off ever. You have to work in office then you have to complete your fatherly works and then your wife demands that family outing she has been planning.

"Life’s tough for you, very complicated. So, if you think being a guy is the best thing in the world, think again."

All the best guys :D

Poor Girl

Girls and Guys . Yes they are equal, as per the rules and facts at least! But are they really considered equal? Most of the girls will reply to this the same, ‘NO’ and I am one of them.

From the childhood days, we girls are made to learn things that will make us a family person, a happy to be with, to have as a part of family type of person. We are taught to cook and do other household works because as they say a girl is of no use if she can’t cook for her Godly husband! She has to feed them. And of course to make them the best of all other eligible bachelorette of her age, they must, a strict must, know how to do other works, as you can’t rely on anyone else for your daily works, dah !

But the best part is this is the modern era, now everyone wants a girl who is well educated, not to mention working because who knows when this talent of the girls might come in handy. So the sarcasm here is we are expected to learn every household activity, and we have to compete with the male members to get good score, a good college and finally a good job. Ohh I almost forgot to mention, boys and girls are equal. So if a guy can go out to get the grocery or if he can drive us to our workplace, we must be capable of doing the same. We have to have the talent the male society got, you know why, because girls and guys are equal!

But then from the age of 5 years, they start training us, more like the taming. Because we are the girls, we have to laugh like a lady, walk and talk like one, and yeah we never ever are allowed to raise our voices even if something is not right. We don’t have the privilege to question anyone, and by anyone I literally mean anyone, because we can’t afford to seem rude, no! Apart from training and taming you know what else is not right, it’s when you grow up with the continuous dialogue by your mum that you are going to get married someday, and this is not your home! Why !!

When you turn 15, congratulations, life is going to suck for you girl, and as usual it’s because you are a girl. You won’t be allowed to do so many things. Going out would be more of a hell for you because of those staring eyes and cheap people and you are just 15 so you don’t even know how to handle it. I seriously pity you girl. Then this growing age, and confused mind, you have so much more in your plate, the hormone issues, the temper issues, the teenage problems and what not. But don’t worry, you won’t be treated any differently even now. We still have to be in our limits. Guys are the ones who are meant to break the rules, not girls! Guys make a mistake, it’s because they are learning, they are growing, and when girls make a mistake, how dare she!  I don’t know why people get so hypocrite on this topic. Every things good with the guys and when it comes to girls they would like to keep them imprisoned until they just transfer them from one cell to other, ie. Her parents’ home to her in-laws’ home! PS: It still won’t be your home, because it’s your husband’s place. So don’t ever dare to commit any mistake!

Moving on.. The adult life, when parents pressurize us to get married. You want to work, to achieve what you always wanted, but ohh poor girl how can you forget this job was not because they wanted you to achieve your dreams, it was more of an investment! The more qualified you are, the better husband you get, that’s the deal. But don’t be too good, because then either your parents would find difficulty in searching for the perfect groom or you will end up doing nothing, because how can you be better than your husband!

Then comes the part when you finally want to have a little fun in your life, because in your school days you had to wait for the college, den in college wait for the job, and even when you are working, you are not supposed to have a little fun, go out with friends, because the world out there is not safe, so girl, wait, wait for your hubby to show you places. So finally after getting married you hope that now is the time, but wait, you are a girl, you are supposed to stay back, and remain low, as you can’t just get out just after your marriage! What would ‘Society’ think of you! After 1 year of marriage, you even started shopping for your vacations. PS: shopping is the only thing girl can actually enjoy pre and post marriage! But ohh no, how can you take it so lightly, you have one more major role: Family Planning! Food and Kids are your major responsibility, never ever forget that! So again you are not allowed to go out. Yes not allowed, you are just 30 now, you don’t know what is good and what is bad for you. You are such a child! And after all the sacrifices and compromised you won’t be admired, you know why, because it was your job, you are a girl and that’s what is expected of you!

And this cycle never ever stops. I am sure I would be on the other side after 20-30 years, but right now I am here, right now I am frustrated, fed up of all this. I am a girl. I have survived in toughest of all conditions. I am the one who is there for you when you needed to, so in return, yes I do expect a little respect, empathy and love! I am a girl because I have the gu

ts to be one! So being girl is awesome for me, because I know guys won’t be able to take that much!