Happy You

You want to be happy? Who doesn’t! But you have to remember that nothing is stationary. This bad time will also be passed. So instead of being sad or thinking about it more here are some steps you can follow for an everlasting happiness:

10. Take a break and refresh:

You must know that you are not a robot. And you do get tired. If you try to work more than your capacity you will end up exhausted, frustrated and very unhappy. It is good to keep yourself busy as it avoids any bad thoughts but you must take a break from your work. Refreshment is very necessary if you really want to be happy. You can chose anything that could charge you up like listening to loud music, dancing or may be going out for shopping or spending time with your love. Do whatever you want but relax before starting another job. It would improve your focus and concentration and you will perform well.

9. Laugh out loud and decide to be happy:

This is not merely some statement. It can turn your life to good. If you think and force yourself to be happy always, you will actually feel happy in a while. In 24 hours, get some time to enjoy yourself, when you can laugh out loud or act like a child. Avoid the negativity and stop thinking about the wrongs in your life. Think about the things or people who gives you happiness and with whom you can share those loud laughs. It is ok to act crazy for yourself. You are perfect yourself so why worry what others think about you.

8. Be alone once in a while:

Some time for yourself and getting to know yourself is one thing that would surely help. A little time of introspection is necessary for everyone. Sit alone and let the thoughts flow in your mind. Think about the things that make you happy, your likes and things that make you mad. And try to know the bad influences. Think about your life. What was your dream and what have you achieve. Point out what is required further and proceed in that direction. Make your principles and in no case break your own rules.

7. Help others:

You are a human and behave like one. Once in a while help others. And I’m telling you will get immense pleasure and satisfaction. The thought that someone got some happiness because of you is priceless. Having the thought that you have a role in someone’s life or you have given a day’s meal to some needy person  is an extraordinary feeling. It is no harm to be helpful.

6. Re-assess your priorities:

Today you have so many things and persons and work in your life. You have money, you have success and also a nice family but still you are unhappy. You must be wondering you have got everything but still you are not happy. Now here is what you need to do. Re-assess your priorities. You are giving more importance to the wrong thing. If you are too absorbed in your job you need to give some more time to your family. Wealth comes and goes but what remains with you forever in your good and bad times is your own family. Pray to God once daily and thank Him for everything you have got.

5. Be grateful and satisfied:

It is often seen that people keep on complaining and nagging about others. Judging others won’t do any good to you in any case. You are harming yourself and others both. Just stop thinking about what others are lacking. Think about yourself only, improve yourself and you will be happy forever. If you will keep expecting more and more you won’t be satisfied ever and so never happy. Be grateful and be happy for whatever you have got. Most people have even that. It’s good to dream and improve but it doesn’t mean keep on crying for what you haven’t got. By comparing your life with others you are just adding to your misery. 

 

4. Whatever happens, happens for good:

Trust me when I say that everything that has ever happened to you and whatever is happening to you, it all happened for some reason, it was all planned by the almighty. We are His children and in no case He can leave you alone and sad. Today’s sorrow may be the reason of tomorrow’s happiness. Life can’t be good all the time. You have to believe in Him and just continue what you are meant to do and leave everything else on Him. Even a small pain today is because it was needed to make you happy tomorrow. A failure today may be required to teach you a lesson for tomorrow’s success. 

3. Learn to say no:

You may think it is rude to say ‘NO’ to anyone. But you know what, by doing so you are saying no to your own happiness. You can’t make everyone happy at all times. So stop trying to please them by saying yes always. Say no if you don’t want to do something. It is your life and you have to live for yourself and you have to think about you now. Stop listening to everyone. Advices are not meant to be followed every time. If you will keep living for others you will start expecting some good from them also and dear, Expectations Hurt. So why don’t you just try to be happy yourself instead of pleasing others.

2. Make a list:

Write down your thoughts. Note down what you didn’t like or what happened. By doing so you won’t be blaming people for anything bad that happened. And you will prevent yourself from spoiling your relations. By doing so, you will get to know how to control your emotions. You may be requiring an organised life. So start making a to-do list for every single work that is needed to be done. It would free you from the tension of missing out anything and yeah as a bonus you will get to tap yourself while checking off items that you have fulfilled successfully. It is a great satisfaction.

1.Let it Go:

Are you a memory device of infinite memory space! So why store all those good or bad memories in your mind. Holding on to anything bad will pull you in the past and you will never be able to see how beautiful your life is or it can be if you start living it. Let go of the things that are not in your control. What has gone is gone and you can’t change it now. So stop thinking about your past bad experiences. And those good times won’t come again if you will keep thinking about those so called golden moments. So stop treating yourself so unfairly. You should give yourself a chance to be happy. You just keep on doing your work God is seeing everything and you will get everything that you deserve today or tomorrow.

Are you ready to Die?

I am writing this post because of the things that happened around me a while ago and I feel obliged to share my feelings regarding that.

In past few days, I have seen peoples' death around me. It made me think you don't know when you would be gone. You don't know what would be the situations then, would you be prepared for it or not. But it surely made me think. Think about the time when I would be gone, gone forever.

Those people just died. 24 hours ago they were one of us. And the next day we were there crying over the corpse. Yeah! Corpse! That is what left of them now. That neighbour lady with a son wasn't prepared to leave so soon neither was her family. They didn't even get to say good bye to her. Yes!! Good Byes are necessary. Think about it. Did she tell her son all about what she wanted to tell him in his different phases of life? Did she showered those wise words that he may require in his later stages. No!

Main question here is: Are you ready to die in the next 1 hour? Are you ready to leave without being able to say a word to your loved ones? Have you done all you needed to do? Are you done with all your responsibilities? I am sure a lot of you would say Yes without even thinking about it in depth. But wait. Think about it once more. Have you told your loved ones, your family or friends that you love them lately? Have you shown people their importance in your life in this week or month? We people are so busy in our lives, trying to adjust and earn and to get the basic necessities for living (food, cloth and shelter) that we forgot the whole reason of living! Are you living just because you are born! Don't you want to actually live! In this speedy life we forgot to keep people close to us that were meant to be with you in parallel. We have forgotten what it was so smile and laugh with our families. We have forgotten to be happy.

I say why worry about the day of our death. Let’s just prepare for it today and then with every other day think it as a bonus day to live again. Be ready to die today so that you don't have any fear of death and every morning you will wake up with a smile for God has given you another day to smile, to live, to be near your family, to do what you love again, to do what you couldn't finish and most importantly to be happy for the life you have got. Because trust me you are lucky for you have got another day to be happy or even if it a sad day, you are still alive with the hope for a better day tomorrow. Guys, not everyone is that lucky. People die every second of every day. You are still alive and you have to make it a great moment. I am not saying stop being sad or act crazy or spend all your savings, or stop thinking about your future. All I am suggesting here is Do what you need to do. If you think there is something you will regret not doing later, do it now. In that 'Later' time you may not have chance or that preferable condition or who knows if you would be there to do it or not!

While thinking about all of this stuff I thought of writing some letters to everyone who is important to me. I thought it would be good that those people know how I felt about it, how I felt about them and how much they mattered. Letters: unspoken words, unshared feelings, untold facts; but then it came to me that if I really want to say all that to them why don't just tell them today. Why wait for your death bed for it. Why wait at all!

And finally I decided to finish up those letters but also to show them their importance daily, for actions speak louder than words. I have started showing people in my life that they matter. I have started living before I die. It is very easy to say Live like it’s your last day but guys it’s easier to implement it because what could be better than living. Nothing is better than this beautiful life. If you have loved ones to share it with, you are the rare lucky ones. But if you don't have, don't worry my friend. It’s your life and you are meant to live it and enjoy it anyways. You are here for some reason, for nature has its own way to maintain balance to everything. You may not know it yet but I can assure you, your life has a meaning, someone is out there who is waiting to be connected to you somehow. The best is yet to come.

Once you say those lovely words to your family and friends, once you have completed your responsibilities, once you have fulfilled your reason of survival, once you have done all you wanted to do, once you have actually lived your life, once you are done, only then you are ready to die.

I have done what I needed to do, I am ready. Are you?